Co-Dependent actress and psychiatrist
Co-Dependents of the Month:
Actress Nicole Kidman, who according to a friend, didn’t know that her husband, Grammy-winner Keith Urban, “was drinking and using coke when she went to sleep at night”from the time they married. When she figured it out four months later, to her credit she staged an intervention and Urban checked into rehab. In 2002, long after first getting clean and sober, Urban reportedly told a reporter that he didn’t consider alcohol a problem. “I still drink. I get drunk. But it’s never sent me back to other things.”According to reports, Nicole’s prenuptial agreement states that if they divorce, Keith receives nothing if he uses illegal drugs or drinks “excessively,”but otherwise gets $600,000 for each year they are married. And according to friends, Kidman was “heartsick”that Urban lied to her about his sobriety. There are at least three issues: 1. Urban doesn’t think alcohol is a drug; 2. Kidman doesn’t think alcohol is a drug; and 3. Kidman doesn’t understand that addicts lie convincingly, especially to family and friends. Message to Nicole: Urban is an addict. If you love him, change the prenup. He can’t drink or use other drugs, including psychotropic pharmaceuticals, period. And to decrease the likelihood of relapse and your unwitting enabling if he does relapse, get him to agree in advance in an amended prenup to mandatory third-party regular and random alcohol and other-drug tests that continue for several years.
Psychiatrist Wayne S. Fenton, allegedly murdered by one of his private patients. Fenton, 53, specialized in research and treatment for schizophrenics and was an advocate for improving their care. Vitali A. Davydov, 19, has been charged with his murder. Davydov was previously arrested for possession of marijuana and “drug paraphernalia”and, therefore, may have been an addict with schizophrenia-like symptoms. A misdiagnosis may have cost Fenton his life.