Disenabling son impeded by enabling mother
Laying blame
Dear Doug:
My son refuses to respond to his cousins’ text messages because they both have a history of using drugs. How can I explain to my son that the drug use is not his cousins’ fault, and that it’s their mother’s fault because she has had longstanding drug issues?
Signed,
Trying to get the kids together
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Dear Codependent,
Other columnists would suggest your son should be trusted to use his own judgment. They might have you encourage him to understand whatever drives the cousins but warn you that forcing him into a relationship could spell trouble. They’d also tell you that it’s possible there is more to the story than you know.
Such columnists would be tip-toeing around the issue, ...
