He’s already got a love affair with Ms. Booze. He will never be able to truly commit until that love affair ends.
She’s looking for a relationship—but is he?
Dear Doug:
My boyfriend and I have worked through most of our issues over the four years we’ve been dating. The trouble is he lives a “wild” lifestyle—partying, drinking and lots of women. Every time I bring up the topic of commitment he changes the subject. What should I do?
Signed,
Wants to Get Serious
Dear Codependent,
Other columnists might suggest he’s doing you a huge favor in “telling” you, by his avoidance of the subject, he doesn’t want a commitment. They would miss the other unspoken point, however: he already has a relationship with his other girlfriend—booze. Due to a damaged neocortex, you cannot reason with him, nor can you trust him, believe him or predict when his ...
