Abusive partners and their red flags
A reader asks what red flags signal an abusive partner and why people stay in abusive relationships?
The first question can be rephrased as, what red flags signal an abusive partner, or tenant, or employer, or employee or "friend?" All the same clues: abusers often start out charming, because charm is a terrific way by which to control others. It later turns to abuse only after the person has sucked in the victim, or "mark," as it did in the Robert De Niro movie based on the Tobias Wolff story, "This Boys Life" and countless other stories of psychological, physical and financial abuse.
Other red flags include belittling remarks about someone else (including "friends," family or employer--or a class of people), ...
